St. Louis County has recently adopted a “Rule” that all couples getting divorced will be required to go to at least 2 hours of mediation.
This mediation can focus on parenting issues or financial issues.
Mediators must be on the “Family Court of St. Louis County Court Approved Mediator List”.
I am a St. Louis County Court Approved Mediator and happy to support you in mediation.
Here are some thoughts to help you prepare for mediation:
- Plan to be future-focused. Mediation is focused on the future and preparing for change moving forward.
- Think about your Interests: Interests are the “Why” behind the “Want”. If something is important to you there is a reason. Think through your reasons for wanting these important things.
- Know your spouses / co-parents perspective. You do not have to agree with the other person, but knowing what is important for them can be truly helpful in mediation.
- Are there items you think you and your spouse could have successful discussions about with the support of a mediator?
- Talk with your lawyer, if you are working with one, to think about items that may be the most productive to add to the agenda in mediation.
- What are your needs and interests?
- What are the strengths and weaknesses of your case?
- Discuss and establish a “bargaining range”.